Published!
Have you noticed that new graphic on the right-side of this page? It's announcing the cool news that "Help Me, Bubby!" is now a book!
The 285-page book is filled with the best questions sent to Bubby dating back to October 2003 along with her unique replies. All of the funny cartoons are included, plus a sneak peak at the first e-mail we sent to Bubby asking her if she'd like to try writing an advice column. Her reply to us was classic!
Here's how it works: We publish the book through a company called Lulu. To purchase a copy, you have to visit lulu.com and order the book (as many as you'd like!). When you receive the book in the mail (and won't that be exciting?), come back to lulu.com and post a review about the book. That way other people will know about it. Or just click on the rating system and give it a thumbs up.
We're so excited to share this with you all.
So get your copy today at: http://www.lulu.com/content/128595
How to use the site: If you order the "printed" version for $15, you will get the book shipped to your house. If you order the "download" version for $4.76, you will get a digital version that stays on your computer and you can print yourself. Make sure to only check the box of the version you want.
And now, on with today's question...
Dear Bubby,
I'm 16-years-old and I know I'm not expected to be in love at this age, but I feel like the relationship I'm in is so much different from every other one I've ever been in.
At the beginning of the relationship if we went 2 days without seeing each other he would get so upset and tell me how miserable he felt and how much he misses me. But a few weeks ago we went 2 days without speaking and when I called him he said he didn't even notice.
I've tried to stay calm, but I've been looking things up online and sometimes I read that he hasn't lost interest, he is just comfortable and I should relax. But then as soon as I talk to someone my age they tell me to dump him. He has always been a bit of a jerk, but in different ways.
When I'm with him he seems so happy, but when I'm away it's like, out of sight out of mind. Is this because he is confident and comfortable, or has he just lost interest?
I am almost a year older than him and maybe he just doesn't understand how relationships work yet. But that seems like an odd thing to assume if the beginning of the relationship was so great. I'm scared to leave him, I'm scared to be alone and I don't really like most people I meet. He just seems perfect.
PLEASE help me,
Epitomyofa teenagegirl
Dear Teenager,
I think both you and this boy are much too young for any relationship and maybe this young man -- and his family -- realize this. At 16 you should have friends with both sexes but get to know them. Concentrate on your school work and your social will fall into place. You have a long time to go before you become involved.
What you are now experiencing is called "puppy love", not the real thing, so be clear of these entangements. The right situation will come along as you grow older and when you are older you will have a pleasant memory when you were sweet 16.
Good Growing Up,
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