I discovered your website some time ago and I didn't dare write about minor problems I had (and that are resolved by now). But I'm in dire need of advice right now.
To be precise, I'm a 25-year-old French girl but I'm currently leaving in Belgium with my boyfriend and we're planning to get married. I studied a lot (I do have a Masters in Human Resources) and have been looking for my first job for the last month.
I had lots of interviews and a French company made an official offer to me for a job in Paris. Unfortunately, I don't really like the company's philosophy and the position is designed for an experienced worker. My parents were really excited and wanted me to accept, but I wish I could decline and find something more in adequation with my experience and my wishes. I am afraid my parents will resent me if I don't accept but they'll think I declined because of my boyfriend is living in Brussels and not in Paris.
I know you can't tell me what I must do because the decision is up to me, but can you help me clarify this hard situation?
Thanks very much Bubby!
From the Old Continent
Dear Old Continent,
It is a terrible feeling to get up in the morning and go to a job that you don't like or are not qualified for. Just give yourself more time to find the job for which you are trained and you are qualified.
In the job that you have been offered, have they said they will train you because if you have a good education, you will learn the new job in record time.
Don't worry about your boyfriend. If you really love one another distance will not make a difference. There are many ways to communicate - calls, travel and when the time is right, you can plan a wedding.
Put your thinking cap on. Talk it over with your parents and boyfriend together. You will get a lot of assurances.
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