Dear Bubby,
Let me try to paint you a picture. I'm a single 34 year old mother of a 10 year old girl. My mother and sister have played a significant role in my daughter's life and have always been there to help me out without me having to ask. My sister and I have always been close and did everything together. We have always lived together (me, my daughter, sister).
The dilemma comes to play when I got engaged (to a man that I have know for 4.5 years.) Me and my fiance have chosen a wedding date soon and moved in together to create stability for the three of us (me, fiance, and daughter). Now both my mom and my sister feel I am taking my daughter away them. My sister feels that I have chosen my fiance over the family. They believe that since I will be living 40 minutes away, they would never see her....which I have repeatedly indicated that would not be the case.
I understand that they are suffering from a lost. But I just can't get them to understand that me and my daughter have the opportunity to be a family unit with my fiance. I'm so looking forward to my wedding but dread dealing with my mom and sister. But I would never deprive them of my daughter.
Do you have any suggestions to aid in my dilemma?
Signed: Desperado
Dear Desperado,
40 minutes away from your mother and sister is no big deal and they should be happy that you are at last finding someone with whom you and your daughter can have a happy home.
You could be moving to another country and they would see you and your daughter less and less. This problem can easily be solved. You can call each other between visits and you could take turns seeing one another for family affairs such as birthdays, Mothers Day, etc.
A visit will be an occasion to look forward to. I went through that and it worked out just fine.
Good Luck. ♥, BUBBY
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