I don't know if you can help me but I have a big family problem. I don't know what I should do. Maybe you can help me.
My father just got married to a women that my whole family knows and hates for certain reasons. They just got married a few days ago and I went to the wedding.
I have an older brother and he thinks that they shouldn't have gotten married and my dad has made a bad mistake. I think that too. But my father and his wife and new stepdaughter (his wife's daughter) have invited me to their Honeymoon in Hawaii. I rarely leave the house especially during the summer because I don't have anybody to pick me up. So Hawaii would be the most fun that I would have.
My brother and my mom think that I shouldn't go and spend time with my stepmom. But I really want to go because this could be my only fun that I would have this summer. So please grandmother...can you PLEASE help me?
Should I go to Hawaii or should I stay home? Another thing is that if I go my dad would be very happy and my mom and brother will be very mad at me. If I stay my father would be very mad at me. I don't know what I should do. Can you please e-mail me back soon? I really need your help!!!!!
Oh and by the way I'm 13 years old. Thank you so much grandmother for listening.
Stuck in the middle
Dear Stuck in the Middle,
You can't tell your father what to do -- He has to live his own life and so do you. With which parent are you living or was that decided for you?
And if your father wants you to go along to Hawaii - go if you want to. But I think if this is a Honeymoon trip - you should stay home and be with your mother and friends. That's an easy solution.
At home you should work on making new friends and if you try, you can do it. Join a club - go to the gym - play ball. There is a lot you can do at 13. Give it a try.
Links to this post:
0 OPINIONS ADDED
"Help Me, Bubby!" Disclaimer
By submitting a letter to this website, you grant Help Me, Bubby! permission to publish it on this site or elsewhere including print publications. Your letter will only include an anonymous signature that you provide or that we use to substitute for your real name. Your email address will never be included or distributed. Due to the large number of letters received, there is no guarantee that a letter will be responded to. Any information or advice given at Help Me, Bubby! is not intended to provide an alternative to professional medical treatment or to replace the advice or services of a physician or psychiatrist. Neither Bubby nor her granddaughters are professional therapists or medical experts. If you have any serious medical or mental problem, please consult a professional. Although all this advice is offered lovingly from the heart and in good spirit, we are not responsible in any way for your decision to accept or reject the advice or the results thereafter.