My husband and I met 3 1/2 years ago and fell in love quickly. We were inseparable, and when I look back now, those were the happiest days of my life. He is a wonderful man and he loves me very much, as I do him.
Unfortunately, he is not an American citizen and in the fall of 2003 he was deported back to his native country of Egypt. I went with him, but found it difficult to live there. The lifestyle is so very different from where I come from, and I slowly began to grow sick as time went on.
I returned to the US temporarily, to see doctors and to "reset" myself, then went back to be with him. For the last 2 years I have been going back and forth, finding a true home in neither place. I am now pregnant with our first child, whom we should be meeting in about 6 weeks. Yesterday, I just found out that there is a possibility that my husband my never be allowed back into the US. We have been apart for so long - so far from those days when we fell in love.
Our love now is stronger than ever, and that is why this hurts so much. All I do is think about him and our child. I cry every day. I want us to all be together as a family. I want my husband to be able to watch our child grow. I can't enjoy anything while knowing my husband is not by my side sharing it with me. How can I cope with this life?
--Looking for Home
Dear Looking for Home,
You do have a problem! Why can't your husband come back to the US? For that I would say to you to go see a lawyer who specializes in immigration. I don't know those laws but I do know there are attorneys in the immigration department who know the answers.
I realize that it is a heartache for both of you to be separate at this time and a baby on the way so don't waste the time! Why did your husband not apply for citizenship in the time he was here or did he think if he married an American he automatically became a Citizen?? Please write back and let us know what happens.
Best of luck.
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