Hi Bubby,
I have been with the same person since I was 17, and am now 25. We are best friends, have lived together for several years, and love each other's company.
But I am scared that if we get married, I will never have experienced what it's like to be "single". I've told him how I feel and he feels the exact opposite. He hopes I will eventually change the way I feel, but it's not that easy.
He's ready to get married and settle down. I love him, but don't want to regret anything when I'm older. Any advice?
Thank You,
Confused in Colorado
Dear Confused in Colorado,
One does not know what the future will bring. If you love this man and he respects you and can support you, why hesitate? You say you love him. You know what it is like to live with him and in all probability he will be the same as he is now.
Do you see other men?? You have had this relationship for a long time and it is time to have a very serious talk with this man. Give him the answer he wants or break it up and look elsewhere.
Good Luck.
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