I have a little problem. I moved home (from FL to NY) to help run the family business. It was supposed to be for a short period of time (1-2 months) until they could get someone else or until I found another job. It has been two years now and I am still stuck here, hating the work and the pay.
Every time I bring it up to my mother, she makes me feel like I owe it to them to stay there (even though she left to go back to school, which is why I had to come home). I can't bring it up to my step-father because I know he couldn't afford to fill the position (I'm working for minimum wage and paying rent...so I can't even save any money to fix the situation).
This is beginning to put a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend (I already lost a lot of friends) because the town we are in is an hour from anywhere and he is in medical school and doesn't have time to drive out here to see me all the time. I do not drive, and I feel like being in this small town without a transportation system is killing my spirit, and stressing me out big time...but it would kill my family if I left. Please help!!!
I can't understand why you had to come home to help run the business while your mother is going to school. You should be the one going to school while your Mother should be helping her husband to run the business. If you help out, that's fine and if you are getting paid, that will take care of your allowance. Sit down with your mother and step-dad and talk it all out.
As for your boyfriend, if he is in med school that is fine. He is preparing for his future. You should consider him as a friend rather than a "boyfriend".
How old are you? I would like to know more.
Keep me posted. Then let's talk.
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