Dear Bubby,
I am 19 and recently married. In two weeks I will be relocating with my new husband. I do not believe that the phrase "stressed out to the max" can even describe how I have been feeling the past few days: With being informed of the cost of moving, how long it can take, and everything and anything that can come with owning a new home.
My grandmother was 18 when she was married and I never once heard her complain about anything like the problems that I have been experiencing recently. I'm lost and feel like I can't quite figure out what to do. Any advice?
From,
Needing help
Dear Needing help,
Congratulations on your recent marriage.
As for the trouble that you are having now, it goes with the package - the wedding - the move for packing, and all the rest that goes with it. I think that your new husband should be helping you out.
Moving is a job for 2 and even your family and friends should help. I know. I went through it myself. I moved to a new city with my husband and when he went back to work after out honeymoon I was completely alone. So I got a map of the city and everyday I went to a different part of the city so that I would learn about my surroundings. Then I unpacked slowly and found a place for everything. When my husband came home he helped me and we had a lot of fun deciding where things should go. Then he helped me put together dinner because I could not cook.
You are quite young to have gotten married, but now that you did you have to think like a young married lady and not like a teenager -- that is gone.
I have told you what I did and you can follow my plan if you like and you soon will get it all together.
Good luck and much happiness.
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