I am a nearly 40-year old woman. I used to work with someone I had a crush on. I have never been so attracted to anyone in my whole life, not even to this day. Anyways, we have lots touch but I have managed to track him down. I know he also had a crush on me, yet we never really dated. Probably we were too busy being infatuated with one another!
I love him. To this day, although I have not seen him in years, I really do love him. It is a hard thing to explain, but I believe he is my soul mate. I know he felt this too. My hesitation arises from that our relations seemed to sour a little near the end, and I am not sure why. We live on different coasts now.
Do you think I should contact him and hope to rekindle, or has too much time passed? I donÂt know his personal situation. However, I have always put off contacting him until things got better for me, and they just never seemed to do so. Any advice?
One confused lost soul
Dear Confused Soul,
After all this time, and I understand that it has been a long time since you have heard from this man, I think it is time to give up.
But to satisfy yourself, you can take the initiative and contact him. From your conversations you may soon learn whether you are "barking up thee wrong tree".
However, if after all this time you learn he does not remember you, I think you should develop new friends and forget about this person.
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