I have read your advice on your site and I was wondering if you could help me.
I have a best friend, and she is overweight (around 200 lbs). She's really nice, but she is kind of depressed. I have had a few boyfriends, not that many. But if she asks a guy out, they say no. She blames it on her weight. I encourage her to lose it if she hates it that much, but she then acts like it is no big deal. She compares herself to me, and sometimes asks me my weight. I love her to death, and she's my one and only best friend, but she sometimes makes me uncomfortable when she compares her weight to mine, and when she gets depressed when guys reject her.
Can you help me besides telling me I need to get a new friend? Because we have been through a lot together (including both our parents divorces) and we get along real well. I just need to know what to do when she gets on the subject of her weight.
A concerned friend
Dear Concerned Friend,
I think you should suggest to your friend that first she should see a doctor to make sure that she is physically in good health. Then she should go to a nutritionist and get a good diet that will help her to lose some of that weight. She can to go to one of the "self help" gyms and work out.
It takes a lot of nerve and strength to push away from the table and eat less. But first your friend must really want to lose the weight and work hard at it and then she will succeed.
I wish her well.
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