I've been supporting myself since I was 18. I'm now 27. Having to work full-time, I've only been able to approach college at night, one or two classes at a time.
Well, this semester I made a switch. I found a new part-time job and I am taking classes full-time. I'm very, very happy about this because I will finally have my degree soon. It's been a long, hard road, and I want to be done.
The problem? I think I've taken on too much. I just can't see how I can work 20 hours per week and still get all my homework done. There just isn't enough time in the day! My job is difficult and stressful and my courses are tough. I feel utterly, horribly overwhelmed.
I would just quit my job and concentrate on school only but there's a problem. My new boss is also my fiance's boss. My fiance didn't get me the job. I am very well-qualified and would have had a good shot at the job without the connection from my fiance. But the connection helped. I was granted an interview before any other applicant, and the job was informally offered to me even before my boss stopped accepting applications.
For me to quit now would put my fiance in a very awkward position, since the boss obviously gave me some special treatment. And even though everyone involved is extremely understanding (my new boss is the nicest guy on the planet, and my fiance is so sweet) it feels like such a bad thing to do. It might make things odd between my fiance and his boss. And I really don't want to put the man I love through this.
But I really fear failing my classes this semester. I am so overwhelmed and upset... Can you help?
Dear Stressed Student,
I think you chewed up more than you can handle - work and school. Since you are self-supporting, it might be a good idea to drop one of your courses and pick it up next term. Then you can have peace of mind at your job and the most that could happen is that it will take a little longer to get your degree.
This happens all the time and there is no loss. Sometimes it is the best and you will enjoy your studies more, and get more out of them. Those who are involved in all this will be glad you are doing the right thing.
Lots of luck,
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