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Friday, September 9, 2005
A Special Message From Bubby:
"I always like to hear the good news from people that maybe our advice helped them. I hope more people write back to us and let us know how they are doing now."

Dear Bubby,

I lost both my grandmothers by the time I was in 8th grade, so I'm hoping you can help!

My husband and I have two wonderful daughters, 7 and 10. My husband is stressed WAY out about finances. I'm trying to be a good mom, good wife, and bring home the bacon (as a consultant, which amounts to more than he brings home at times). But I've reached my limit.

The less I work in my consulting business, the better I feel, the happier the girls are, and the more calm and organized our home life is. BUT - the less I work... the more stressed and completely negative and irritable my husband is.

He thinks I'm not being responsible, but I'm literally saving my health and the girls' emotional health by cutting back. Help! I can't win!

Trapped Mom

Dear Trapped Mom,

Your first duty is as a mother. And your husband also, his first duty is to take care of his family, to love, honor, cherish, and provide for.

He should go out and change jobs or get special training for a new job by going to school at night. Where there is a will there is a way, as long as he is helping to take care of the family. Family is very important, important for the children, important for parents.

We must share the head of household because marriage is a partnership with equal responsibilities. He has to do his share.

My first recommendation is that he should take stock of himself. There are plenty of employment offices where you can go in and have a talk. They will recognize what you are best suited for.

You don't mention what he does, but whatever he does can earn him a living if he does it well. And he can do it well by applying himself with a positive attitude. He can get help. He can go to a psychologist, he can go back to a school for more training. You don't have to have a PHD to earn money or be a good father.

Write back and let me know how it goes.


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Bubby is our 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93 94 year old grandmother.
A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

So, are you looking for advice on food, work, a broken heart, or the perfect bat mitzvah present?

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