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I lost both my grandmothers by the time I was in 8th grade, so I'm hoping you can help!
My husband and I have two wonderful daughters, 7 and 10. My husband is stressed WAY out about finances. I'm trying to be a good mom, good wife, and bring home the bacon (as a consultant, which amounts to more than he brings home at times). But I've reached my limit.
The less I work in my consulting business, the better I feel, the happier the girls are, and the more calm and organized our home life is. BUT - the less I work... the more stressed and completely negative and irritable my husband is.
He thinks I'm not being responsible, but I'm literally saving my health and the girls' emotional health by cutting back. Help! I can't win!
Dear Trapped Mom,
Your first duty is as a mother. And your husband also, his first duty is to take care of his family, to love, honor, cherish, and provide for.
He should go out and change jobs or get special training for a new job by going to school at night. Where there is a will there is a way, as long as he is helping to take care of the family. Family is very important, important for the children, important for parents.
We must share the head of household because marriage is a partnership with equal responsibilities. He has to do his share.
My first recommendation is that he should take stock of himself. There are plenty of employment offices where you can go in and have a talk. They will recognize what you are best suited for.
You don't mention what he does, but whatever he does can earn him a living if he does it well. And he can do it well by applying himself with a positive attitude. He can get help. He can go to a psychologist, he can go back to a school for more training. You don't have to have a PHD to earn money or be a good father.
Write back and let me know how it goes.
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