I am 48 years old and I met someone new after a couple of months of being separated from my ex. That was in 1999 and it is now 2005. I am still (somewhat) involved with this person I met. It has taken so much out of me but I still want something to come of it. But what? - I don't know.
As of now we both live in different cities in the same state. He has changed his telephone number and calls only to hang up or leave a message. When I try to answer my phone if he is calling, he hangs up. I am so sad and lost and I know we don't work, but I still keep hoping.
I know this sounds absurd to anyone reading this, but the problem is... I am living it. Please give some guidance. I am lost.
Dear Still Hoping,
I think that it is time to give up on this person. Everything he has done tells you he is finished. I hope that you will meet someone who is much nicer. This person doesn't even have the inclination to tell you the truth. But all that he has done should show you that he does not want to continue your relationship so give up and find someone who will be nicer.
Don't be upset - just write this episode off as experience and put it out of your mind.
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