I'm thirteen and I've got a nice life. I love my family, and school is great. The only problem I've got is about a friend. We've known each other since we were three, and we were always the best friends in the world.
But now we have changed. I love reading and I'm the best in my class, but she's lazy and she's getting really annoying because she's all the time watching people's clothes and all that stuff, and I hate it.
Even so, we've kept really close. But this year, a new student came to our school. She's a lot more like me, and we are real friends. The trouble is that my older friend doesn't like her, and she always tries to take me away from her. Now, my new friend got angry with me because of the older friend, and I don't know what to do! Should I just forget about my old friend and try to get closer to the new one? Or should I trust in what I've already got?
Dear Just Me,
As we grow older we are bound to acquire new friends and lose old friends. In your case I think you should be very honest with your old friend. Explain to her that you like her a lot - after all, you grew up together.
But now you have met a new girl that you like also and you want to be her friend. There is no reason that the three of you cannot be friends. You will learn from each other as you grow up. Then it will be up to this old friend to tell you why she does not like this new friend.
As you grow you will each meet many people with whom you will be friends. You may have one special friend but you should have many more or you will be lonely. I know a group of six girls who grew up together and are very good friends for many years.
Explain that to your old friend. She should understand and if she does not - she has not grown up yet.
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