Picture it. It's June. 2004. Bubby receives a letter from a young woman who calls herself, "Confused". Why? Because the man of her desire is playing the wishy-washy game with her. He says he loves her, he says he wants to marry her. Then he doesn't want to marry her. Then he does. Then he doesn't. What's a woman to do? Write to Bubby, that's what.
"Confused" spilled her guts to us in a lengthy letter, telling Bubby - "I worry that if I don't accept his proposal, another one won't be forthcoming so quickly. I'm worried that if I accept ... that eventually the marriage will dissolve because it was created under bad circumstances."
Bubby agreed with this young woman's concerns, saying, "You are not confused but this boyfriend of yours certainly is... You are young and deserve someone who will respect, admire, and love you."
So, nu? A year and a half has gone by, and we want to know... how DOES this story end?
I broke up with that boyfriend. To make a long story short, he basically went out, bought a ring, told me he was going to propose and then, on the day he had planned to propose, he called me up and told me he couldn't go through with it. I decided I was worth more than all of this.
About 2 months later I met another amazing man. This was a totally different relationship, so healthy and unlike any other relationship I ever had. In fact, it was so different, I kept wondering why I wasn't fighting or crying, or where the drama was.
4 months after we started dating we got engaged, and we're getting married in 3 weeks time!! Obviously, all relationships take work, but the effort put into this relationship feels like an investment and not like a drain.
Thanks for emailing, Bubby.
I'm no longer confused.
We actually received this update letter many months ago, but only got around to posting it now. Which means... our writer is married by now! Congratulations and Mazel Tov.
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