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Friday, October 28, 2005
Reader Update!

Picture it. It's June. 2004. Bubby receives a letter from a young woman who calls herself, "Confused". Why? Because the man of her desire is playing the wishy-washy game with her. He says he loves her, he says he wants to marry her. Then he doesn't want to marry her. Then he does. Then he doesn't. What's a woman to do? Write to Bubby, that's what.

"Confused" spilled her guts to us in a lengthy letter, telling Bubby - "I worry that if I don't accept his proposal, another one won't be forthcoming so quickly. I'm worried that if I accept ... that eventually the marriage will dissolve because it was created under bad circumstances."

Bubby agreed with this young woman's concerns, saying, "You are not confused but this boyfriend of yours certainly is... You are young and deserve someone who will respect, admire, and love you."

So, nu? A year and a half has gone by, and we want to know... how DOES this story end?

Dear Bubby,

I broke up with that boyfriend. To make a long story short, he basically went out, bought a ring, told me he was going to propose and then, on the day he had planned to propose, he called me up and told me he couldn't go through with it. I decided I was worth more than all of this.

About 2 months later I met another amazing man. This was a totally different relationship, so healthy and unlike any other relationship I ever had. In fact, it was so different, I kept wondering why I wasn't fighting or crying, or where the drama was.

4 months after we started dating we got engaged, and we're getting married in 3 weeks time!! Obviously, all relationships take work, but the effort put into this relationship feels like an investment and not like a drain.

Thanks for emailing, Bubby.
I'm no longer confused.

End Note:
We actually received this update letter many months ago, but only got around to posting it now. Which means... our writer is married by now! Congratulations and Mazel Tov.
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Bubby is our 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93 94 year old grandmother.
A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

So, are you looking for advice on food, work, a broken heart, or the perfect bat mitzvah present?

But no dirty words allowed or you'll only get one matzah ball.

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