I need some advice as this is a little complicated. I am a married man from India, 38 years with 2 kids and a reasonably happy married life.
Recently I have met somebody at work who is very intelligent, and pretty, however 12 years younger than me, married too. But still we have struck a great friendship and she really leans on me. There seems to be some kind of chemistry between us and we really enjoy each others' company and can go on for hours talking.
While she has given a lot of hints that she cares for me, it still seems like a fine line and it is difficult to tell which side she is (oh, a woman's heart!!!). By the same token, I have also demonstrated that I care for her, but not in so many words. It has something to do with our culture too where these things do remain in undercurrents.
My first question: How do I know what is in her heart?
I care for my family but I also deeply care for this woman. Do you think expecting a deep platonic relationship is "sustainable" and that it will not grow into a full blown relationship?
At the same time, I am having an amazing time and I believe she is too, truly enjoying each other's companionship. Joy on small things. What do you think is the way forward?
Please excuse me if all of it sounds a little confused.
Dear Going Crazy,
Take a cold shower and get back to your wife. I think you're in love with yourself.
Stop robbing the cradle and start paying attention to your wife, I bet she could use it.
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Bubby is right.I had the same the same story. I had a very nice boyfriend and I loved
him very much.but at the same time I saw a cool guy in the univercity and
whenever I saw him I thought that something was happening in my heart.although I loved my boyfriend very much I
didn't know the reason why I wished to talk to this guy in the campus.
I gradually understood that my feeling just was a passion and was not falling in love with this young man.
I have loved my boyfriend so far and no one can replace him in my heart.
you are the same.you gradually will understand that this woman in your work place has attracted you only and this attraction will fade away and this emotions inside you will subside and the only one that remains and stays with you is your wife.
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