I am a 12-year old boy. Me and my sister always get into fights and she really doesn't like me and blames me for everything! She is 14. I know there is a 2 year gap between us, but to be honest, I just want to be friends. But she just discards anything I say.
I've seen my friends have great relationships with their brothers and sisters. About a month ago she got a Ipod (music player) and it has made matters worst! Please, if you do have any ideas, please e-mail asap.
Dear Sad Brother,
I think you should have a serious talk with your sister and find out just what the trouble is between you. Ask her for some advice you might need. Take her into your confidence. Maybe she feels left out.
I know that when there is a 2 year difference between a brother and sister there are many things on which they differ. By talking it over you can come to understand each other. You can take her advice at times or ask her what to do if you have a problem.
As you get older you will find that it is good to have a sister a little older - especially when you want to know more in acting with girls.
Let me know how you make out.
Relevant Reader Update:
We thought now would be a good time to sneak in this new reader update. We just heard back from Boy Blue, who had originally written to Bubby about his mean older brother. "My brother thinks he's such a wonderful gift to the world. It drives me nuts," Boy Blue told us. Bubby advised that such a problem warranted a good long discussion with his parents. Well, that was last summer... And here's new update:
Things have been a lot better since school started up again. My parents are calmer and starting to see why I act like I do. My brother and I are much better with each other. Over all things have improved greatly.
We hope that helps you see the light at the end of tunnel, Sad Brother. Things will get better soon!
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Bubby is certainly right. My older sister and I used to fight a lot and our mother would have broker an apology...oh wait, that still happens - No, really. Your sibling will be the best friend you canhave.
Great post today!
I think you should imagine it from her perspective. Two years is a gap and she may be interested in some things that she feels you are not. You could always remind her that you love her and tell her how much you miss having a relationship. Maybe you can start off by scheduling time together once and a while ... but at the same time, don't forget to be respectful when she wants space. Good luck and I really do hope you are able to recreate a relationship. Sibling bonds are a wonderful thing!
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