I am 17 years old, and sometimes I feel so lonely. I have had a few friends, but with none of them was I was able to share my problems and feelings with. Among my classmates I behave so reserved and shy. I hate that things are like this, but I can't do anything about it.
Most of my free time I stay at home. If there are no classes and if I go somewhere with other teenagers I always feel uncomfortable coz I try to be sociable, but no use. I want to have true friends, to find people with whom I would feel free and without complexes. I want to be happy and make others happy. I think I could be a good friend.
I have never had a boyfriend coz I haven't found someone who will understand and love me and whom I will understand and love. I know you'll say that my life is ahead of me, but sometimes I get so disappointed. I get nervous because of little things. I would like to be more indifferent to what other people do or say.
When I was younger I was mocked at rather often. Maybe this is the reason of my shyness but I am not sure.
Dear Bubby, advise me something. Tell me how to make one's dreams come true, and how to be confident in one self.
Dear Bashful Blue,
At 17 you should be able to meet friends who are much to your liking. And the only way you can achieve that is to develop them. When you meet them, smile and show that you are happy and they will be happy in return. Suggest that you go to a movie or perhaps go to a museum where you will be able to talk about what you are seeing or saw. Then suggest that you go someplace for a snack. You can talk about the events of the day. Suggest that you do this again real soon.
Follow this up with a phone call and soon you will have a friend. Do this over and over - with a smile - and soon you will have many friends.
As for boy friends, you must smile, talk to them about your school work and if you need help in any of the classes, ask one of the boys for help. Before you will know it, you will have a friend of this young man. Relax, and I am sure that before long you will have more than one boyfriend.
Take stock of your appearance. A well dressed girl will attract other girls and the boys will notice you. Give this a try and see what happens.
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