I am going through the most traumatic and most wonderful time in my life! My boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me a few months ago and upon the joyous news we received many congrats and well wishes. Well, I guess there was one not so well wisher, his mother...
His mother and I have always got along decently. I found out recently she approached my fiance and stated, "It is not to late to back out" and "You have only invested money and money is replaceable." My fiance then told his mother he loved me and wanted nothing more but to make me his wife.
My fiance told me what his mother stated, a few days later, and I immediately sparked a bunch of feelings... I asked him if he believed anything she said and he said no. He thinks she was out of line for saying that and he DOES want to be with me no matter what.
I question this because I know how tight a bond is between a mother and child. I can't help but wonder if he thinks about that in the back of his head? I am driving myself crazy wondering if his words to me are really how he feels.
Please help me, Bubby! Please tell me if I am over reacting!
Dear Over Reacting,
You are not marrying your fiance's mother. You are marrying him. So go ahead and marry him and live happily ever after.
After you are married, just be yourself and try to be as nice as can be to your mother-in-law. You and she will come to a level where you can be pleasant to one another. Your husband should help you understand his mother. At first it may be a little hard but if you work at it you will come to understand her and she will come to understand you.
Your job is to get along with your husband and the rest will fall into place. The important thing is for you and your husband to live a happy life and when your mother-in-law sees that she will come around. Remember, you just have to be civil to your mother-in-law. Gradually you will come to understand each other.
Get married, be happy.
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