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My daughter has a boyfriend that I don't like, because he wants to be a rapper and does not have any other aspiration in life.
My daughter has finished her bachelors degree and is working. They live in the basement of his parents. I am concerned about my daughter's future. This young man is manipulating her life in a passive way. I would like to have a good relationship with my daughter like I used to have, but she hardly visits us. She say it is because of her work but I think it is because of this young man.
All I want to see is my daughter happy and whenever I talk to her she does not sound happy. This whole thing is interfering with our relationship.
Dear Troubled Mom,
You must understand that when a girl marries, her mom moves to second place -- her husband is in the first place. Even though the new wife loves her mother, she does try to please her husband.
I think that it would be a good idea on your part if you would invite your daughter to have lunch with you alone and at that time you could iron out these incidents that are troubling you. Your daughter doesn't realize how you feel. If anything, she may wake up and give a more mature thought when she speaks with her husband.
It would also be a good idea if the two young people lived alone in their own apartment and not "in the basement of the in-laws". That would give them a chance to find their own way.
Suggest it to your daughter.
Try it it - it might be the best advice you could give them.
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your young girl needs to be free and love her partner.she needs to enjoy her life
and exprience world with him.please give this opportunity to her and be happy as she and her partner are happy
she is mature enough to identify good and bad things and is able to build her future so don't worry about her and stay happy and change your expectations of her.
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