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Tuesday, March 28, 2006
Dear Bubby,

Four years ago I met the woman of my dreams. We seem to have so much in common and we love to be together. She has a smile in her heart. She buys flowers every week and knows how to laugh. I love the complex nature of her soul. In many moments I will feel the lightning bolt course through me and I realize how deeply I love her and how I can not live without her. I am so happy with her, playing tennis, golfing. I would trade a lifetime for one weekend with her; to walk with her and hold her hand. She makes me laugh, cry and smile. I want to just talk with her and to hear about her day.

However, I am married (over 20 years) and have two kids. One just left for college and one is in high school. My wife is wonderful, beautiful, warm, sweet, kind, loyal, helpful. I stayed in the marriage because of the kids. She loves me and I have not treated her fairly.

I have recently moved out and I am trying to figure out what to do. Do I pursue the chance of love with this other woman I've know now for four years, or do I go back and be a good husband and help my kids get through school? What do you think..?

My friends tell me I am nuts to take a chance on this other woman (who has already been married twice) but my heart tells me to take a chance on love. Loving someone and caring means risking it all. Love doesn't give you a choice, it takes your soul. It doesn't mean you are weak, it means you are in love!

What do I do???

Distracted Husband

Dear Distracted Husband,

I think that once you know this young woman in time you will look for another woman. You say nice things about your wife so she must be a very good wife and mother, so why break a home that seems to be going fine?

You are going through a midlife crisis and I am sure it will pass. Many husbands go through it. You will recover. This younger woman does not want an older man - I am sure she is looking for one closer to her age.

I would say to you -- think it over very carefully get this out of your system. Go back home and be a good husband and a good father.

This younger woman is not for you, believe me.
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A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

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Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

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