Dear Bubby,
I am 15, and me and my boyfriend are having a few problems. I'm black and he is white. Most of the people around here are trying to break me and him up and I don't know what to do. What should I do?
I have already got called some bad things and he has got into fights because all of this.
Please help me.
From,
A Friend
Dear Friend,
Have you discussed this situation with your parents? How do they feel about it?
You are just 15 and I assume that the boy is about the same age too. So I think that neither one of you should be more that just friends. And in that case, you can be friends and enjoy your company without any complications.
At 15 you should be concerned with your school work, not a boyfriend. Wait until you are a few years older and you will laugh at yourself. Wait until you are in college and you will find plenty of boys of all colors.
Don't get involved with anyone at this time. You are too young.
2 OPINIONS ADDED
Maybe I am reading too much into this, but are you suggesting she get a boyfriend her own colour?
By 3:48 AM
, atI don't think that is what she is saying at all. She does not even metion race as being an issue - she is just concerned for a young woman not focusing on improving herself or her school work.
By 2:09 PM
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