I am always looking back at the past and I wonder, "What if I did this or I did that to change my life's path?" I think "the grass is always greener" is probably the best way to look at it but I know that I am probably in a better spot today just because of what happened in the past.
I am a 46-year old man with a 28-year old wife and two small kids. I married late and found a wonderful wife who just happened to be a bit younger than me. We have had 8 wonderful years together.
I guess I am just looking for your advice on how to forget the past and look ahead to the great years ahead with my wife and two kids. I am the guy who always keeps in touch with old girlfriends and they do the same with me. I didn't date much in school and really did most of my dating in my late 20's and early 30's. When I was younger, I was always all the girl's "buddy" but never the boyfriend. I just wonder sometimes if those girls also look back and wonder, "what if?" just like I seem to do from time to time.
Thanks for your thoughts on this topic. I think I know what you will have to say but sometimes it is better to hear it from another source.
Have a good day Bubby!!!
Days Gone By...
Dear Days Gone By,
It is very strange to me that if you have a happy marriage, why you keep up this relationship with old girlfriends? How does your wife feel about this?
I think you would be much happier if you concentrated on your wife and two children. If on occasion you happen to meet these other "friends", say Hello and let it go at that. You don't need extra baggage.
Concentrate on keeping your wife and family happy.
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Bubby is really right. It's ok to have memories but regrets will only weigh you down and hinder your current relationship because you will seem distant if you are thinking about someone else.
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