In December I received notification that my husband, who was serving in Iraq, was shot and died. This terrified me. But what seemed worse was that I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl and now she won't have a dad.
How am I supposed to tell my daughter, when she is old enough to understand, why she has no daddy? Will she hate me for telling her this?
I would really like some guidance and I thank you for your help to people in need.
Thanks very much,
Dear New Mom,
I extend my sympathies to you on the loss of your husband. What a tragedy. Of course, your baby will not understand at first that her daddy was a casualty of this war. But the time will come that you will explain to her that her daddy gave up his life to save his country.
You should wait until she is of the age when she will understand. That may not be until she is 6 or 7. Hopefully by then you will have remarried a man who will love this little girl just like her biological daddy would have loved her.
This whole process is not an easy one but by then you will have the strength and love to do the right thing.
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