Please help me because I really need advice....
I am 25 years old. I want to go to medicine school to be a medicine doctor and help people. But my parents, especially my father, doesn't want it. He wants me to go to school for engineering. I was really really disappointed and I tried to talk to him, but he doesn't want to hear it and won't bless it. So I try to cooperate with him and find a solution, which was to go to architecture school.
So I went to the placement test at medicine school and architecture school. And Bubby, you know what... I failed the placement test in medicine school. But I am accepted at architecture school. At the time I was really happy but I think I really, really don't know what must I do now. I feel like I have lost my way...
I try to enjoy the architecture school but it's hard because when you love something else so much, it makes you feel so desperate. But thanks God I can finish my architecture school...
But Bubby, since high school until now, my dream was to be a doctor. Always in my heart and my mind. I try to let it go but I can't. I can't forgive myself for failing the placement exam. I just want to find my biggest dream. Sometimes I can't forgive my father but I try.
Oh Bubby, please give me advice. Should I try to follow my dream or just let it go? I am really really sad, Bubby...
Someone Out There
Dear Someone Out There,
If you failed the medical test exam, you can be sure that you will not be able to pass the rigorous program that you will have to go through to be a doctor. It is very hard and not glamorous. I am sure that since you did well on the architectural exam, you will learn to like it. And if you continue all the way through, you can earn your PHD in that field and even earn many honors.
I think you should give it a try and see what happens. Architecture is a wonderful profession - creative in every way. You no doubt have a gift that you have not yet recognized. You can always change.
Good Luck and let me hear from you.
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Maybe you just weren't prepared for the test the first time around - try, try again! Sure, you can convince yourself to like architecture but yuo will always wonder, wonder, wonder - what about medicine? Study more this time!
I agree with sesame seed: preparation makes all the difference to how you do in an exam. Since you'd already agreed to take up architecture with your parents it's quite possible that you didn't study as much as you would have otherwise. Plus how well you do in something has a lot more to do with how passionate you are about it rather than innate talent, which is somewhat overrated i think.
By 6:28 AM, at
Maybe you can design hospitals and medical centers!
By 1:14 PM, at
Lots of people get engineering degrees and then go to medical school. Study biomedical engineering, for example. Good luck!
By 6:58 PM, at
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