Dear Bubby,
I recently received two wedding invitations, and the weddings fall on the same weekend: one Friday and the other Saturday. I am not sure how to handle this since both are cousins of mine from opposing sides of the family.
I asked my mother, and of course, she thinks I should attend her niece's wedding. My father has given me no feedback (my parents are divorced so they will be attending their respective family members wedding).
I don’t want to upset anyone, but I am really unsure how to handle this. I considered trying to attend both but it is not feasible since they are just too far from each other.
Any ideas on how I could handle this situation without making anyone too upset?
-Conflicted Wedding Guest
Dear Conflicted Wedding Guest,
If at all possible, arrange to go to both weddings -- maybe to the ceromony of one and then the reception for the other. I have done that after explaining it to the couples. They can easily understand and will be glad that you can make an appearance.
Or you can go to the one you are closest too and explain to the other and plan to invite them over to your house after their honeymoon.
Try the explaination and see what happens. Which ever way you decided, they are your cousins and you will not lose them.
Happy Weddings,
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