I'm a 30-year old lady. I am getting married in 3 months time and I'm confused.
How does one get married, and go for a 2-year masters program abroad the next year, and have children and keep a home? I'm so confused I can't think.
Dear Really Confused,
You can do all those things that you plan to do with just a bit of planning. Many girls do. Make yourself a plan and stick to it.
You can get your Masters right here in this country - no need to go abroad. And while you are studying, you and your husband can decided to have or wait to have children. There are many women who decided to become mothers at 33 or even a few years more. And, there are many pregnant women who can handle both a baby and a study program at the same time. You might have to give up some social life but it can be done.
Your husband can help keep your living quarters neat and clean as long as he agrees on your plans.
The important fact is you and your husband must make these plans and in time they will all fall into place and work out.
And then again, many women wait until their children reach school age and then go back to school, and that is OK too. You are never too old to learn. Make your plans with your husband and stick to them.
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My mom got her master's degree while she raised a two year old and a two month old. And I'm pretty sure she was the only one cleaning the house.
Don't put off kids too long! It's hard to pick up a kid or teach him to ride a bike when you (and your back) get old. It's hard to pick off lice (don't think your kid will be immune) when your near vision goes. You can get a Master's later; you can't get your youth back to take care of young kids.
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