My daughter and her husband are expecting their first baby and my daughter is 41. His mother is insisting that she and her husband come to help. And they are planning on coming the same time I am coming, and for just as long!
I am upset. I wanted that time with my daughter and don't want to share.
Am I wrong?
Dear New Grandma,
Congratulations! I hope that all goes well for your daughter and the new arrival.
As to your visiting time. From your letter it seems that your time is your own - no outside obligations. So why don't you toss a coin? If not, you might say that since it is your daughter who will have the pain, you should be with her.
Your son-in-law should explain that to his parents and they should understand. In a very short time they will get their chance. If you all live in the same city, that is just a matter of hours.
The baby will grow up loving both grandmas.
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What gives the maternal grandparent special privileges concerning the new grandchildren. That biddy needs to realize that the new grandchild has two sets of grandparents and she needs to learn to share. Enough said.
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