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Friday, July 14, 2006
Dear Bubby,

As a Jewish grandma living in this 21st century, I assume you've got an opinion on this matter: Online dating.

The computer is our modern-day matchmaker, our virtual shiduch - and one would think this would be a blessing! But I hate it! The men that contact me have been such shlubs. I thought the city would have better options than this, but it seems men are as unreliable online as they are if you meet them in bar.

Sometimes I agree to "meet for coffee" - and when I meet them in person, they are a lot shorter and balder and fatter than they claim to be online. Although who knows, maybe the girls are lying a bit too.

I'm just frustrated with the whole process, and I'm thinking about quitting and hoping that I just meet someone the old fashioned way.

So what does a modern grandmother like yourself think of Jdate online dating?

A mitzvah, or a mess?

Single in the City

Dear Single in the City,

I can understand your frustrations with this Jdating. I won't condemn it, but it is like buying a piece of candy to see what the prize inside is.

I know several girls who have dated men from the jdate -- some good, some bad. I have a grand nephew who did and met a wonderful girl and after dating a while they were married. I met the girl several times and she is lovely, will educated, wonderful family - and my grand nephew is also well educated - has been all over the world --- written about his travels - great job - they make a beautiful couple and both have loving families. They were just married a few months ago.

But this dating is hit or miss. But nothing ventured - nothing gained. I know another case where all was well but the guy - after a long time, decided he is not ready for marriage.

Of course, it is desirable if you met through friends of yours or family. I set my grandson up with a friend of a friend. To make a long story short, they now have three little girls.

It is also a good idea if you took some courses or joined some organizations. You will meet people.

The old story -- seek and you shall find. I hope you do find and will be successful and happy...

Best wishes,

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I am in the same boat, meeting some guys that I've already found in internet and chatrooms. despite the fact that some of them were well educated but they were never worth to make a friendship. I will explain and then you judge: one of them was really insane and had mental problem! another one was seeking a girl who had enough desire for sex( he just wanted a sex partner instead of a true friend that he had already claim!) ok, and the last one was a lier , short and bald and also had mental problem. all of them were not like the picture that they had sent! can you believe? so don't waste your time in hope of finding your Mr right In internet!

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