Dear Bubby,
I am 13 and I like a girl. I have known her since I was little. She moved away to another state 2 years ago, but just moved back 3 weeks ago. I invited her to my house and we went to the movies. After the movies we went swimming in a pool and two of my friends came along. Later, she started flirting with my good friend and they exchanged phone numbers.
My feeling are hurt and I feel very mad at my friend. I think the girl started it, but I still think I am madder at my guy friend. I don't like to feel like this. Why would my friend do this? I would not do this to my friend because you have be loyal to them.
How do I make it stop hurting me?
Thank you for helping,
Hurt Boy
Dear Hurt Boy,
You will find many things during your life that will be upsetting so don't let this thing bother you. I think you should talk to your friend and tell him how you feel about this girl. He will then know and will not make any advances towards her. Besides, at your age, don't worry, another girl will come along and you may like her much better than this one.
By the time you are grown you will have met many girls and will compare them to the ones before. You really may fall in love and marry one of them. So just be friendly to this one and to your boy friend. Your friendship with the boy may last a life time -- long after you are grown and this girl will just be a memory.
So enjoy your youth - at your age I think you will be in and out of love with a lot of girls.
Be happy.
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