I've been dating a guy for almost 3 years and we've talked a lot about marriage and being together forever. Just recently he graduated from college and is moving 3,000 miles away to spend some time with his parents and decide what he wants to do with his life. I've always been supportive of him and we've both always been faithful to one another so I knew I could trust him going away.
Suddenly as the end of the school year neared he started spending very little, if any, time with me. I allowed this because I knew he was just hanging out with friends he may never see again.
Now just 2 days after his graduation he broke up with me leaving me completely broken hearted. To me it came from no where. He told me that this just isn't what he wants in his life right now, but he really thinks that going home with his family and finding himself again will bring him back to me.
I'm lost without him, confused as to what happened, and really not sure what to do next. What confuses me the most is that he's JUST met this new girl who will be helping him drive home. I KNOW they haven't known each other for more than 2 weeks tops.
He really is a great guy, but he hasn't been himself lately. He says it has a lot to do with the stress of starting his life and career. What do I do now and what would I do IF he does come back?
Heart broken and confused
Dear Heart broken and confused,
I think the best thing you can do for now is start to forget about this guy. I think he went home because he was thinking of breaking up with you and the best place to go was home. There he can ask his parents what to do and they can help him. Maybe his father has connections and they can help him make a decision. So the best thing you can do is forget him. There are many fish in the sea - so you can go fishing.
Apply yourself to what you want to do most now that he is gone. If you are in school, attack your school work. If you are looking or have looked for a job, attack it in earnest. Don't think about this fellow. I think he was looking for a good reason to break up with you.
So consider part of the learning and go on to the next project. You are young and will someday have a daughter and tell her this story and you will both have a good laugh.
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what a nice and wise advice
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