First I want to say that I think your website is wonderful! It's beautiful to see you lovingly helping so many people out there!! If only there were more people like you out there. I send out much love to you!!!
I'm a 22-year-old male, and for the past 6 years I have been feeling more and more lost in life. I just finished college, majoring in science, and although I loved it at first, I ended college with no interest to pursue a career in the subject. I thought by this point in life, I would have my life sorted out a little more. Most people I know have figured out what they want to do with themselves, they know what type of occupation they want, and they are in long term relationships.
Here I am, with no real direction in life, have never had a solid relationship, and no sure sign of one happening soon (or ever).
I've decided to take a year to travel around. I spent 2 months living in Spain, and will be returning to Europe shortly. I'm hoping that travel will help me learn a lot more about the world, about people, and about myself. And hopefully it will help me find some direction.
My question is: Does direction in life ever come?? How exactly does one find it? My current plan is to wander the planet until I find it. And true love? Does it really exist? Is there really a soul mate for everyone? Does life ever come together?
I really need the advice of somebody who has been in the world long enough to know the nature of it better than I do.
Thanks so much,
Dear Lost Seeker,
I think maybe you don't give yourself enough time wherever it is you go. You should put down roots and get to know the people around you.
Take a job where there are lots of people. Maybe a large corporation. And you'll learn to deal with different personalities. Some will be good, some bad, some will have expectations and others will never get off the ground. And you should learn the difference.
Yes, there is a true soul mate. And you will find that it will find you. And one day without hunting, she'll be there. I know. Because I went through it.
Just wait and see. True love will come.
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I just wanted to let you know that I am in the exact situation. I am a 22yr old female who is about to graduate college with a science degree. which I used to be so passionate about but now I am just, well, not. I know exactly how you feel about the relationships as well, I feel like when it does come along I wont know what to do with it because I am inexperienced in love. That sounded more corny then I wanted it to but its the best way to put it. I just wanted to let you know that there is someone else out there in the same situation becuase not at your expense it gave me some relief that I wasnt the only one feeling this way. Hoping to give you the same relief. Only you are one step ahead, you are traveling, which I am very jeleous of. Traveling it the only thing that I have ever for sure known that I wanted to do. The point of this blog is to let you know to not five up hope and that you'll find that someoneand that job of your dreams. And maybe you should keep traveling, not until you find what you need but until you feel that you have found a place that you love yourself in.
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