I am a 25-year old male who has been single for about a year after a relationship that had lasted 7 years.
During that time in the relationship, I never felt the need to make new friends because I was content with the friend I had already had, and never fully developed social skills.
I have a difficult time in crowded places and am always at a loss for words whenever I try to talk to somebody new.
What can I do to better improve? PLEASE HELP!!
Dear Tongue Tied,
You wasted a lot of time but it is never to late to start to learn.
I think this girl is a way ahead of you. By 25 you should be able to talk like interviewing for a job or selling or something else. Look into classes in a school who gives these social skills. You will experience an awakening and a new life.
Read books and other publications so you will have something to talk about. Watch other young men as they act in crowds - if you go to parties or other functions go up and introduce yourself and talk because you should have started to learn social skills.
Get help and you will find a new life. Have more than one girl friend - you might also see a psychologist - and learn about yourself. You will gradually become a better person - an interesting one - read the news - always have something worthwhile to talk about.
Remember - he who helps himself becomes a better person.
Get busy if you want to win.
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