Neither rain, nor sleet, nor snow...
Just a little bit of info before we get started. Bubby's not able to access her computer right now, but that hasn't stopped her from reading her letters. We, the granddaughters, have mailed Bubby her latest bunch, and while she was doing her laundry this week, she put pencil to paper and actually WROTE out all her responses. And she has quite lovely handwriting.
(So, yes, we typed them up for her. Enjoy!)
I just recently found your website and I need your help. I've seen what others have asked you and I think your advice could really help me.
I'm 15 years old and am in school full time. Unfortunately, me and my girlfriend aren't in any of the same classes together and rarely see each other throughout the day, except for about 10 minutes in the morning. Usually we'll walk by each other in the hallway and say hey or chat for a very brief second.
We've been dating for a little over 2 months and everything's been great until now. Whenever I see her she'll give me a small glance and just keep walking by during school. Yesterday for instance, I called her after school to say "hey" cause we haven't talked in 2 days and she said she was sleeping and was really tired. So, I said I'd let her sleep and I asked her to call me back later when she was awake. She never called! If she called me and I was asleep or busy I'd immediately drop everything and talk for at least a little while.
Every weekend I try to do something with her, like go to the movies or a party or something fun. I'm trying to keep her entertained and attracted to me as best as I can.
Do you think I'm crazy? Am I trying too hard? Or is she just not right for me?
Help me if you can please.
Love In The Hallways
Dear Love In The Hallways,
On all three of the last questions you asked me, the answer is YES.
The girl you are so in love with does not return your affection and she is trying to tell you that in a nice way - by being tired, sleepy and not calling you back. She is civil to you as you pass by in the hall - but that is all she wants from you.
At 15 you are just starting to grow into a young man so let this be lesson #1. You will meet many other girls who will try to make up to you and you may say to yourself, "Why are they bothering me?"
So the balls rolls or the music plays and when you get over this puppy pain and are looking at it about age 20 - you will have a big laugh and maybe really find a girl who will think of you as much as you will think of her and you will fall in love.
After rain there is always sunshine.
Be happy - study hard and prepare yourself for your future.
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Yes, when we turn 20 we are able to have prespective on our teenage years. And I'm sure when we turn 40, we will have prespective on our twenties. But when you are living and breathing your aga it is hard to imagine having hindsight, especially when you are being rejected.
hey i agree with bubby you will
always find someone else
(there are many fish in the sea)
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