He is a very good programmer and has financial security. His social status is good. He is mature and treats me fine and we love each other very much.
The problem is he never thinks about getting married and always he is thinking about his career and making progress more and more. This hurts me because I think although our relationship is good it may endures for the short run.
On the other hand, I think I am getting an old maid gradually and I haven't got married yet. I avoid asking my boyfriend for getting married and I'm not able to do so because I am shy and can't express my expectations so he has never thought I would like to be his wife. If he known my expectations, he would break up with me and I would get devastated. :(
What should I do for this dilemma? I will be appreciated for your help.
An upset girl
Dear Upset Girl,
Since you have already diagnosed his personality, the best thing you can do is be a good friend with him and let the relationship grow at its own rate. Many relationships grow into a deep love. Don't push it. If you push it, it will be over.
Young men are fragile. Be smart, and you will win.
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Is this really your Grandma? Wow. Cool idea.
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