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Monday, September 4, 2006
Dear Bubby,

Okay, I must be certifiable, but I need help. I will be thirteen in a month or so, but that isn't my problem.

My problem is that I truly love my best friend. It isn't "puppy love" and it DEFINITELY isn't just a crush. We've known each other for six years, half my life. I know everything about him, and he knows everything about me. We were as close as it can get.

But see, I did this stupid thing. I told him. At the start of the summer. And we basically haven't seen each other since. We don't talk, we don't see each other, nothing.

He had the opportunity to tell me how he feels about me (and I'm almost sure he at least partly feels the same way) but he didn't take it.
I don't know if he just wishes to go back to being friends, or if he actually would want a relationship with me.

Since I haven't seen, heard, or anything about him, I'm guessing that he just doesn't love me back.
I ruined one of the best friendships I had and will ever have. Where my happy loving heart once was, there's just a dull clenching pain. I've only told a few choice people about this, so I have no idea why I am telling this to an utter stranger and the rest of the planet.

I know I need to move on, but I just can't. What can I do to fix this broken heart of mine?


Confused, broken hearted girl

Dear Confused, broken hearted girl,

There are some things you just don't tell and it's sure to make him run in a different direction. He doesn't want to be tied down to just one friendship.

If I were you I would try to say, "Hi, how are you?" and keep going and let him catch up to you and start a connection.

If he continues to go on his way, then you can be sure the friendship is over. You can find new friends and leave this one for the books. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Your heart isn't broken, it's just scratched a little.

There's a lot more there, and through the years you'll prove it. You will meet a lot of boys by the time you are grown and then you can judge who is really your friend. And when you find him, keep him. And have a beautiful friendship. And that friendship will come back to you.
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"Your heart isn't broken, it's just scratched a little."

Whenever I come across a question asking if my heart has been broken, I always answer that its been scratched, bruised, torn, stepped on, trampled, and any other number of terms.

But its never been broken. It still beats. It still loves. It still hurts. It still feels. Its never been broken. :)

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