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I've been asking my friends this question and been coming up with the same answer, but I wanted an outside opinion. I can't feel like I can really talk to my parents. And my grandparents aren't around anymore.
I want to be an animator. I'm very serious and passionate about art and this career choice. But my dad just doesn't seem to see that. I wish he could understand how I feel about what I do, but he doesn't. Recently I've been talking to him about the idea of college, and I told him of this wonderful college outside of the state. He got really mad.
He told me that he wasn't going to send me money outside of the state, because he didn't think I could handle the responsibility. I have an autistic brother that my mom and I take care of and my dad doesn't help at all. I do a lot around here, and get decent grades in school. I don't understand why he wouldn't think I'm responsible enough.
I'd do anything to get my dad's approval and lately I've been thinking of doing something else so that he's happy and proud of me. Should I go through with not pursuing my career as an animator?
You should try to explain to your father what an animator does and show him examples of your work. Maybe once he knows what it entails, he'll learn to respect you and the work that you love to do. Find out exactly what he has against being an animator. Maybe he thinks you can't earn a living doing that. Tell him about people who work at Disney - they make a lot of money!
Get your education first. You're still young. You should explore all possibilities. If you are interested in art, then pursue a career in art. Just like my granddaughter.
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If he won't listen, just go for it! You are clearly passionate about it and that is good. I'm 21 and have just finished my 1st year of uni in the UK. Over here, a lot of people don't go to uni so I had a year out to assess my options before embarking on a course. I am so jealous of you having a passion and something to aim for :)
Your dad probably doesn't want you to leave your state but he doesn't own you and he needs to realise that. You are clearly responsible enough as it is whereas he doesn't help out (maybe he is quite traditional and expects less of you?)
Either way, do what you need to. Otherwise you will regret it. Good luck hun x
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