I am 30 years old. I am Muslim and live in an Arabian country. I suffer a lot because I'm homosexual. I hate that but I do not know how to change and be normal. I want to marry and get children. Is there hope? Is there methods or cure for my case?
Please help, sorry for my bad English.
With a lot of love,
Trapped In Here
Dear Trapped In Here,
I suggest you move to a country that is more tolerant so that you can have a life. A happy life. Homosexuality is not a disease, you are just born that way. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with you.
People who are not educated well enough don't know how to be more accepting. Start accepting yourself first. You can still have a family and children, just maybe not where you are living now.
Don't lose hope.
I'd really really appreciate it if you gave me your wonderful advice on this particular situation that I'm in. I am sure that you get a ton of email from people around the world - but it would be amazing to get feedback from such a great lady.
Fortunately for some—and unfortunately for others in high school, the junior prom is just around the corner. I know it's just one night and essentially just another school dance, but with added stress and more hype. (It all seems so shallow yet fun to me). I have the dress. I have the group of friends I'm going with. Just missing is my date.
Nervous to the point that I almost couldn't think, I asked a friend (who is a senior) to the prom, as friends. He was very kind about it... but said he couldn't go because he was visiting his sister somewhere. He told me "thanks for the invite" and suggested that I ask one of his friends.
Wow. This was like a small slap in the face. But it's life. And it happens.
Unfortunately one of my friends (a girl) had already asked (the senior's) friend. Pretty much all of my girl friends have dates and I know it is my fault that I waited too long to ask that senior in the first place.
But along comes fate. In the face of a guy, who I'll call Joe, and who is looking for a date. I hear that he is planning on asking me. It is so exciting that someone is going to ask me to prom, but I don't really like Joe like a boyfriend...like I'm not attracted to him at all. He's not that bad looking, just really annoying sometimes. I hate to sound to shallow mean but I care too much about what other girls in my school would say and think. (Like "Oh she's too good for him" Or "she shouldn't settle").
And I shouldn't care.
But I begin thinking that maybe all this stupid drama would not have happened if I had had a boyfriend. Maybe none of this rejection and awkwardness would not have occurred. Maybe there's something wrong with me or something I did or did not do that causes me not to have a boyfriend.
I have lots of friends (guys and girls) in school and am active in many clubs and sports. I try (but not too hard) to be outgoing and positive but it seems all very fruitless at the moment.
So what went wrong? Will I ever find not just someone who I like, but some who likes me back?
And is finding a boyfriend this hard in college? I hope not.
Please Bubby, could you respond to my incredibly long email? Pretty please? And thanks so much for your time.
P.S. Does Love exist?
Dear Questioning Girl,
The answer is YES.
Love does exist.
I found it and so will you.
You never know where love will find you or you will find love.
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