New Letters and New Advice!
Bubby had some special help from her own daughter to answer this new letter.
I'm a 17 year old girl and a senior in high school. I am a member of the softball team and this year I've been named captain!
This past Sunday something I never could have imagined happened... our assistant coach past away. The whole team is devastated. It was very sudden, he wasn't even sick. Now, every time our head coach looks at the team, he gets tears in his eyes.
As the captain, I feel it's my job to keep everyone in high spirit. I put on a brave face and act like everything's OK, but I just can't do it anymore. I need a shoulder to cry on too.
What can I say to my teammates to help them cope with this great lost without lying to myself? How can I help my head coach deal with losing his best friend?
Please help me...
Team In Tears
Dear Team In Tears,
Every person should allow for time to mourn. It's a very human need. You need to be patient with yourself. It's very kind of you to want to help your team.
In time, everyone's spirits will be revived and the memory of your coach will celebrated in team victories.
But for now, take time to cry, talk about your feeling, and share them with your teammates. Even if you tell them that "Everything is OK", it's all right to admit that it isn't right now.
Maybe you guys can do something in his honor, like raise money to help his family, or have a memorial service, or a candlelight vigil. Maybe everyone can share stories about him.
There is a time for mourning, and a time for smiling.
Bubby recieved a very sweet fan letter. We thought we'd share it with you...
That's so nice to read your advices. We always need advice in our life and sometimes get lost with what we should do in our life, especially when we're thinking alone.
I really thank you for all what you do to help people. so nice!
Good luck & take care!
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