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My ex girlfriend and I broke up 5-6 weeks ago. She broke up with me and I've been a complete wreck since.
Four days after breaking up with me, she went on a date with her current new boyfriend. She's completely moved on (extremely fast) and I'm still a wreck. She wants to meet and talk in a few days -- to make progress towards a friendship, but I'm dying to be back with her. Plus I'm still deeply, deeply hurt. From the way she acts, she doesn't even really care anymore that I'm so hurt.
My question is, what should I do when we meet in a few days?? I want to just go off on her about all that she has done. However, at the same time I'm dying to be with her and I don't know what to do.
Dear Broken Hearted,
When you meet your ex girl friend, be as nice as possible. Act like a good friend - don't bring up what might have been. Talk as a friend and she will see how nice you are and start wondering if she really did the right thing by breaking up with you.
The fact that she called you shows that she has some misgivings. Give it a try. See her and be pleasant.
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Sometimes a break in contact until both parties have gotten over feeling is a good thing. If you are having misgivings, I would be honest and tell her you still have feelings. That way if she absolutely doesn't want to get back together, you can both wait it out before trying the friendship thing. If one has feelings and the other no longer does, chances are someone is going to get hurt again. Don't be afraid to say you aren't ready to meet. Good luck!
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