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Tuesday, March 14, 2006
Something Interesting...
We noticed that yesterday's post from the aspiring doctor/architect is inspiring a few "opinion posts" from our readers. Scroll down to read the letter again to see what people are writing (it's under the hamentashin recipe). It seems like you guys have more advice for "Something Out There", and we think that's cool. Thanks, and keep sharing your opinions.

And without further adieu, here is today's letter...

Dear Bubby,

My ex girlfriend and I broke up 5-6 weeks ago. She broke up with me and I've been a complete wreck since.

Four days after breaking up with me, she went on a date with her current new boyfriend. She's completely moved on (extremely fast) and I'm still a wreck. She wants to meet and talk in a few days -- to make progress towards a friendship, but I'm dying to be back with her. Plus I'm still deeply, deeply hurt. From the way she acts, she doesn't even really care anymore that I'm so hurt.

My question is, what should I do when we meet in a few days?? I want to just go off on her about all that she has done. However, at the same time I'm dying to be with her and I don't know what to do.

Broken Hearted

Dear Broken Hearted,

When you meet your ex girl friend, be as nice as possible. Act like a good friend - don't bring up what might have been. Talk as a friend and she will see how nice you are and start wondering if she really did the right thing by breaking up with you.

The fact that she called you shows that she has some misgivings. Give it a try. See her and be pleasant.

Good Luck,
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Sometimes a break in contact until both parties have gotten over feeling is a good thing. If you are having misgivings, I would be honest and tell her you still have feelings. That way if she absolutely doesn't want to get back together, you can both wait it out before trying the friendship thing. If one has feelings and the other no longer does, chances are someone is going to get hurt again. Don't be afraid to say you aren't ready to meet. Good luck!

By Blogger Bananahead, at 12:28 PM  

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A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

So, are you looking for advice on food, work, a broken heart, or the perfect bat mitzvah present?

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