On April 17th of this year, we received a letter from a young woman in a long-distance relationship. She and her boyfriend had been together since high school, and planned to marry after college.
But her question to Bubby was about how their time should be spent *during* college. How could they continue to talk daily without interfering with their studies? And if he transferred to her college, should they get an apartment together, or check out the dorms?
Sweetly, she assured Bubby not to feel pressured to answer her question. She wrote, "I just think you are a very wise lady and think your input could be valuable."
Bubby, of course, was not shy about sharing her opinion on the matter, especially since she has so much experience with long-distance love.
She advised our young writer, "I think that the best that the two of you can do is concentrate on your school work." As Bubby often tells young people in love who write to her, she concluded, "Don't tie yourself down... Wait and see what both of you will do at the time you are a little older."
So a few months have passed, and a new school year is almost about to start. And we want to know... Who's the new roommate??
I thought I would just give you a short update on my life. I wrote to you in April asking you about how to handle college living arrangements with my boyfriend. Well, he did get into the college I attend, and we will both be in dorm rooms. I don't know exactly where he will be, but I am happy because we will be able to see each other when we can, but we will still have our own space when we need to study and be alone.
I think you are right when you tell many of us young ones thinking about love to hold on, because we've got plenty of time. I know I'm not ready to get an apartment with anyone!
Thanks so much for your sound advice!
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