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Friday, August 11, 2006
Reader Update

We love a fast turn around. Just hours after posting Bubby's advice to Love In The Hallways yesterday, we got an email from the same young man with an update.

Dear Bubby,

Your advice really helped me and turned out to be 100% true. My girlfriend and I broke up, which was definitely a turn for the best. There definitely are other fish in the sea. She definitely didn't like me as much as I liked her and I don't think she was ready for a relationship anyway. I'm glad you were able to help straighten me out.

Granddaughter's Note:
While we are so happy to hear that our new friend is getting on with his life, we have to interrupt his update with a quote from Bubby's advice to him yesterday. She didn't just tell him to break up with this girl, she also assured him of this:

At 15 you are just starting to grow into a young man so let this be lesson #1. You will meet many other girls who will try to make up to you and you may say to yourself, "Why are they bothering me?"

And now we return you to the last part of his update letter:

Although, I have a new problem. There's a girl at my school who really likes me and it's obvious to everyone, but I don't really like her like that way. There is another girl that I do like, but I don't really know if she likes me.

How can I ask out the girl I like without hurting the girl that likes me? Can you help me out again Bubby? I really love your advice.

Your friend,
Love in the Hallways

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It seems we spend alot of time worrying about how NOT to hurt someone. The fact of the matter is we all get hurt sometimes. You should talk to the girl you like, and just try to be friends with the girl who likes you. She will be hurt that you don't like her back but you cannot control her feelings or her actions. All you can do is be as compassionate and nice as possible considering the circumstances. So long as you aren't a jerk to the girl who likes you, she'll get over it and move on. :^)

Take the chance on the girl you like; it's the only way you figure out what's right for you and what isn't.

By Anonymous K, at 4:58 PM  

hey there... im new to this and my advice isnt always that great but i think you should tell the girl wh lieks you the way you feel about her and try to be friends without leading her on... and with the girl you do like, take a risk.. you never know she might also like you aswell, don't be a fraind to esprss yourself

hope it all works out mush love,

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:40 AM  

hello, i have been in the position of being both the girl who likes the guy and of being liked lots of times.
I think it is best to treat the girl who likes you well, and be nice to her, but ask out the girl that you like privately. If she goes out with you and you have a girlfriend then the girl who likes you will most likely accept it and treat you as a friend. You can then treat her like a friend.
I think you should treat it as tho it's no big deal that she likes you - along the lines of - "of course, I'm a cute guy people are going to like me" etc.(but don't say that! :) )
If anyone asks, you can say something like "she's really cool" and compliment her, but say that you don't feel like she's the right person for you. Also, don't forget to respect both girls and yourself, since every person is really special and worth heaps :)

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:25 PM  

go for it!
ask out the girl u do like.
if the girl u don't like hasn't
asked u out by now then maybe she doesn't like u as much as u think she does.

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 6:09 PM  

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