Happy Rosh Hashana!
Bubby and her granddaughters wish all of you a happy and healthy new year.
Over the years we have received so many (thousands!) of touching, endearing, tearful, hopeful, soulful letters from people around the world, asking Bubby for life advice. We wish for all of you that your stories turn out happy and everyone sees all their dreams come true.
And on that note, how 'bout a happy update letter!
On July 25, 2005, we received a letter from a 25-year old woman living in Belgium who told Bubby she was planning to marry her boyfriend. She was looking for her first job after graduate school, but the only one available to her was far away in Paris. She wasn't excited about the job and didn't feel like it matched her qualifications. But she was afraid her parents would be mad if she didn't accept it.
Bubby wrote her wisely, "It is a terrible feeling to get up in the morning and go to a job that you don't like or are not qualified for. Just give yourself more time to find the job for which you are trained and you are qualified."
And then she added, "Don't worry about your boyfriend. If you really love one another distance will not make a difference." Bubby knows what long-distance love is like! And she knew there was a way to solve this problem if everyone sat down to talk about it. "Put your thinking cap on!" Bubby told her.
A few years went by, and on March 8, 2006, we received a great update letter. They were still happily in love and getting married! She did find another job that she was much happier with, even though it still meant geographical distance for the couple. But they visited each other every weekend, and spoke on the phone every day. She wrote, "This is working, because we made it work, with lots of patience and love. Thanks for your nice advice to me when I asked for it... I'll send you another update for the wedding."
Well, we're happy to report that she kept her word. This week we received another great update letter. She wrote:
I am very happy to tell you that, due to my good job and good fortune, he was able to come join me in Paris to look for a job (which he found easily). We got married in April. We first met in 2003, and it was a difficult 5 years. We got through it, partly thanks to your advice.
So thank you very much and take care.
The Old Continent
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